Reconnecting with husband after baby can happen for many reasons. Some of them don’t really have to do with the arrival of the baby. It would take some reflection to understand if this is something new or not. If you were to reflect on that, when has it started and how did you first notice it?
It is good to begin by acknowledging that communication is essential, and a great starting point. If you are not communicating as much as before having a baby, what might be the reason and how can you go about it?
It is also common to see couples that not always share the same values. And then “husband” has a different meaning from “boyfriend”. When actually, you are talking about the same person and the same relationship. It sometimes comes embedded from our families to make such a distinction. You might have changed in the process of becoming parents, something I work in advance in The Journey to Parenthood. And now, you need to get to know each other again, to reconnect. Make the time for that.
When the connection is lost, it could sometimes feel, like you are talking in different languages. Can you find a common ground? How can you do so?
Children can alter our inner balance because we need to look after them. Feeling like we need to do so before ourselves. When we become lost and more irritable, we struggle to communicate effectively how we are feeling. We then, tend to project our frustrations into the people we love in the form of blame. It could be essential to find time to find yourself again, to be able to reconnect in a positive way with your family.
In summary, reconnecting with your husband after baby can be done. You both need to allow the time to reconnect and to be kind to each other. It always sounds easier on paper, but taking the first step is crucial.
If you can relate to this, and still struggle to find the solution you are looking for, get in touch for a free consultation. For when you are ready to open up.
Cognitive Hypnotherapist & Maternal Coach